I am fully exhausted by work today ...
no mood to comment on any thing...
and yes , i can't live without a MAN !!!
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5 comments:
Hi appleteas
takecare huh!
Hi 'An Know No Must'
Firstly I see you as a friend.
Secondly I saw the kindness in you.
Thirdly I appreciate yr advice.
Fourthly I appreciate yr visits and support.
BUT
1) Please do not add salt to a wound.
2) Appleteas can call her man any names she likes. She has the right BUT not us. As a mark of respect for Appleteas I think you should not.
3) This Blog is a place for Appleteas to air her grievences. Penting up will only make her sick.
4) Therefore what she posted her, she needs no comments from anyone.
5) Whether Appleteas is silly, stupid, deserves it - SHE herself have been scolding herself many times already. We need no add our experiences and weight on her.
6) Out of kindness you wanted to advice - it must be done correctly at the right time or else it has 'fan xiao quo'.
Therefore...
1) Whether Appleteas needs a man or she cannot live without a man - she knows herself - WHAT DO WE KNOW?
2) You may have bad experiences BUT how can yours be worst than hers? Everyone's experience is unique to herself - we are different individuals.
4) Appleteas already explained that to her - divorce - has many considerations. It involves so many people. Why should we say it is an excuse?
SO, may I ask you
1) Do not cause her to lost a place where she can speak - this Blog.
2) If you are a friend, I believe you are - standby her, support her, care about her, give her words of encouragement.
3) Whatever decisions Appleteas makes, just support her.
4) That is what people like Snow, myself and some others are doing.
As for myself, I am citing your comment to me for Appleteas. I want to drive the message home - drinking water only I know it hot or cold.
U lost a cousin. U cry for yourself that you lost her. I lost a Mother - not a cousin. I cried for so long because
1) I miss her presence
2) I miss her comfort
3) I miss her love
4) I miss her understanding - that she listens, standby me, support me, understand me and YET respect me. She will not tell me what to do. She 'mothered' me. That is why I 'mother' Appleteas n Alice.
I hope you do not misunderstand me. I understand Karma, do you?
Thank you. I will not suppress myself if I am sad and need to cry. I will remember your kind advice.
Before I go, leave Appleteas alone. Please don't add on burdens for her anymore. As much as we love her and wish she get out of the situation BUT are we sure that is the best solution?
Lian,
I believe Karma... and i am not asking them to divorce......... but to leave...
if you think i am adding salt to a wound, this show that she is still in pain...no wound no pain... once again,only wish to see her happy ....real happy and not pretending.
Maybe, we have different view of point in life...life is only once so don't waste it.
Yes this blog is for her and she must air her grievences before she sick... but do you think by venting out every time is making her feeling better???
A wound need to be heal but not deeper.... i don't see her healing but deeper on each writing....
Yes a mother is always there to support and respect her child on any decision he/she make but a mother is also always there to PROTECT the child....
Not only the boy is her child so is the husband and so is all of us... She don't need us but the person that sleep beside her but this person is not "mothering" her. Do you understand or not...... Sometime , when we leave our child alone is to make him/her to be independence and stand up again.
Thats is why i will not write words to tell her she is doing good , doing well to lie to her or to encourage her in believing that she is improving....
When you really let go... you will still talk about your unhappiness but in another feeling of relieve and happy....then healing is in process.
I have a friend whose parent divorce for 10 over years but today they are holding hand walking in the park with true love..... go and find this english song "LOVE ME" and listen to every single words he sing and hope you will understand...........and find TRUE LOVE
BTW... i am a happy woman and do not have any unhappiness before , even have i treated them as a cup of water,drink it and pass out.Never store them in my bladder to become toxin.
Bye ..... this will be my last writing
hi all,
I understand where anon concern come from, to certain extend i agree with anon and ALSO lian.
I guess ultimately, the ONLY person u need to worry for is your son. Until he is old enough I guess what you choose now will impact on his growth.
if you think you and ur hb 'act' will aid in his growth, ur sacrifice will be ALL worthwhile.
but kid nowadays are 'cleverer' than you know and think. You think they didnt hear didnt see, but they does.
erm, i stand on YOUR child side. So do you think your husband is doing his 'job' as a father. Your son will growing UP TO BE a MAN looking at how your husband act.
Your husband will be his 'MODEL'; the way your husband treat you and the way your husband treat the family, will be how your son grow up to be.
if you hb dun give you respect, your son won't give you any respect too later on in life ...
But if you stand up for yourself, this courage will be projected to him and teach him how to Stand up for himself in alot of ways.
anyway hope for the best, prepare for the worst. 1.8k is not much but human can adapt to any adversity.
Good luck ...
my heart pains for you because, my mom went through the same pain you are going thru ending up alone becos she sacrificed her youth for her 2 kids. Nowadays, she see open liao when she see such cases she will also ask them to leave early because still young, don't be like her ...
But my dad has 'hidden' himself well enough making us children believe he is the greatest dad, and the only suffering is my mom. Only when we are much older, and my dad got worst to the extend of not coming home, and my mom start to tell her side of the story.
We always wonder is it my mother bitterness to cos my dad to be like that, but now we know better. It is from YOUTH, he is like this and my mom wasted 30years of her youth waiting for him to turn back. But it never happen ...
There are cases of husbands "coming back" and "not coming back".
Some agree with appletea's way of hoping and who knows her husband may? but again he may not.
So it's really up to her decision because we won't know how she feeling exactly.
Also how her son will become is a ? too. May be sensible and don't want to be like his father but again he may also be like his father.
So in all, everything is ???? Nobody will know the outcome. As long as appleteas feel she still has a slight hope that she is willing or even just want to or "no choice", is a gamble and everyone of us take gamble in our life in many other forms too.
I think anon is not wrong too, we can advise and let her know but in her case, she can choose what she wants or hope.
Is good that anon pointed out and explain and appletea will understand. I think she jsut need to use blog to vent. Doesn't mean that what she say means she will have to make the decision that tally with what she wrote.
Appletea, he is your husband and nobody knows even himself if he can change...maybe he will, maybe he won't....maybe it takes a few yrs, maybe it takes more than that...all are ????....
Lian: I think you take it too hard for the comment made in your blog too though you didn't express your dissatification there but in appletea's blog. There's nothing wrong with that comment too. I think you may like to learn from Appletea who is very frank about her thoughts and that's good.
Ha..a.a. Hi All commenting here. If you read what I said, I think all is reading only the surface of what I said.
I am being polite. To be frank, I will say "Mind your own business"!
I did not say that because I believe the comment comes out of kindness and I already expressed that.
As for the comment about me, I am citing as an example. That the person drinking the water knows whether it is hot or cold. I did not take it hard. It is not untrue that she said what she said. It is just that at this point, I find it hard to cry. That is why I said I have no more tears. Of course the tear ducts are still there, maybe one day I cry myself to death, who knows?
Thanks for trying to smooth things out.
I suppose Alice locked her blog because of uninvited comments. I do not want appleteas to do so.
One person's experience cannot be the same for all. My parents went through this. I did not grow up being disrespectful to my Dad. I love him. I love my Mum too. My brothers did not grow up behaving like my Dad neither did they doubt my Mum. 前因后果,谁知道?
appleteas... you should be happy, your blog is becoming lively. Think on the positive side, everyone is actually concern for you. Don't take it too hard. Don't worry about me too... I got very thick skin de! ha.aa...a!
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