我在网上看到一段第三者约谈妻子的对话，很个案。
第三者：我和他已经相爱一年了，希望你能主动退出。
妻子一笑：以我对他的了解，他不会轻易放弃家庭。他从来就没有和我提出过离婚，估计也从没有答应过要和你结婚吧？
第三者：他说你们之间早就没有了爱情，之所以不离婚是因为亲情。
妻子说：你知道什么是亲情吗？就像左手和右手。平日握在一起可能没什么感觉，也不觉得怎样珍贵，倘若真要剁去一只手，人就成了残废。他不会想成为残废的。
第三者有些受挫，但还强撑：他说对你早就没了“性”趣，连作爱都是一种姿势。他跟我在一起才有激情。他说和我作爱很幸福。
妻子说：既然你和他那么亲近，一定知道他的某些生活习惯了。比如他一年到头最爱吃大米饭，可偶尔也愿意吃顿饺子尝尝鲜。但饺子再好吃能取代大米饭吗？我告诉你，家庭就像他的大米饭，你看看他一年365天大多数时间在哪里？和你谈话之前我正好算了算，去年所有的正规节假日，包括情人节中秋节，他都在家里陪着我和孩子包括双方父母，那些日子你感觉怎么样？
据说这次谈话之后，第三者很快选择了离开。
妻子也从未对丈夫提起过这次谈话，家庭自然又重回原来的轨道。
这位妻子在第三者面前选择了死守家庭的态度。
那么，发现丈夫婚外情，妻子是否都该这样呢？
有人说眼里揉不得沙子，必须得离婚。
有人说不能便宜了第三者，坚决不能离。其实都不对。
面对丈夫婚外情，离不离婚要根据家庭实际情况区别对待。
共分两大类五种情况。
第一种情况，家庭已经没有继续维持的基础，夫妻间感情不好，妻子对丈夫本来就不满意，只是一直下不了决心离婚，这时丈夫有了婚外情而且妻子消化不了，就应当就此下决心离婚，大可不必像某些女性那样，本来还想离婚，因为有了第三者的刺激，反而要回头守住家庭了。
第二种情况，婚外情暴露之后，丈夫不但毫无悔意，反而恼羞成怒，摆出一副坚决要离的架势。这种情况下，婚姻肯定已无好前景。作为妻子，千万不要再存幻想，以为忍气吞声能天长日久忍出个好结果来。应坚决捍卫自己的尊严，毫不犹豫结束已经死亡的婚姻，否则拖延一天，耽误自己一天。
——以上两种情况属于一大类，比较容易决断。
难就难在那些尚有一定基础的家庭，夫妻感情不错，子女也还好，但妻子消化不了丈夫婚外情，该怎么办？
这又涉及三种情况。
第一种，丈夫悔悟了，从此回归家庭，这时妻子切忌穷追猛打、不依不饶。经过这样的风雨，家庭往往会更趋稳定。丈夫知错有了内疚，会更珍惜这个家。所谓“赔不是里生爱情”。这时妻子越宽容，丈夫会越感念。一张白纸不见得就好，从未经过波折的家庭反而脆弱。
第二种，丈夫承认了婚外情，口头上也悔悟了，但暗里还和第三者保持联系，当然人比过去有所收敛。这种情况是大量的，也比较难于处理。大凡迷恋过婚外情的男人很难完全断绝诱惑，但又不想用婚外情取代家庭。这时全看妻子如何评价自己的婚姻，如何看待丈夫“馋嘴猫偷腥”的行为。如果妻子认为丈夫总的来说对家庭还负责任，觉得他经过一段偶有出轨的岁月最终会回归家庭，而妻子又能包容和消化这类事情，那么，这个婚姻可以吵吵闹闹地磨合下去。如果丈夫花心得厉害，妻子又绝对无法咽这口气的，就要及早掂清其中的利害，丈夫别的方面再好也不可留恋，该离就要趁早。要不，这辈子罪受大了，最后还免不了一个“离”字。
第三种，丈夫的婚外情被发现后，一方面说要维持家庭，另一方面撕破脸公开讲不肯放弃婚外情，婚外情反而从地下转为公开。有些女性迫于家庭多年的经营和积累，以及对孩子、父母等方方面面的考虑，对于该不该离婚十分犹豫。那么，面对这种情况要早下决心。丈夫以保留婚外情为维持家庭的条件，不仅是对妻子的侮辱与不公，也预示这个家庭未来必定不会有好结果。
Tuesday, 30 September 2008
Busy ... Busy ... Busy
Have been so busy lately.. due to more work and also of the "down grade" in system...
Therefore not so efficient nowadays ...
stupid system ... cannot tahan ...
#%^#^%$%^*%^$#(
today closing worse....
It's not that i had recover...it's because i am busy with work so really got no time
to think about other things ..maybe in a way it's good .
But after work...the kind of stress feeling will be back...
And everynight i will still get up at 3am ...and then cannot get to sleep anymore.
Am not sure why...
The only thing that i am glad today is ....tomorrow is public holiday...
At least can have a day break from the office stupid system...
Really makes my blood boil...
These few days have been hearing of some male friends talking about their wife having affair.
Can't help but thinking ...what is this world becoming...
Maybe i am a bit old fasion...
But it really hurts me to see them feeling so hurt...
And this male friend of mine had 2 kids...
He wanted to give each other a chance but the wife refuse...
Maybe it's also good ...coz the road to recover is even harder...
Really human don know how to treasure things that they have...
Of coz i am only listening from one sided story ...
But it really hurts...esp to the one that love the most...
Sigh ! Until now still haven't lunch ....
But lucky i got my fav 豆沙饼 ！
Therefore not so efficient nowadays ...
stupid system ... cannot tahan ...
#%^#^%$%^*%^$#(
today closing worse....
It's not that i had recover...it's because i am busy with work so really got no time
to think about other things ..maybe in a way it's good .
But after work...the kind of stress feeling will be back...
And everynight i will still get up at 3am ...and then cannot get to sleep anymore.
Am not sure why...
The only thing that i am glad today is ....tomorrow is public holiday...
At least can have a day break from the office stupid system...
Really makes my blood boil...
These few days have been hearing of some male friends talking about their wife having affair.
Can't help but thinking ...what is this world becoming...
Maybe i am a bit old fasion...
But it really hurts me to see them feeling so hurt...
And this male friend of mine had 2 kids...
He wanted to give each other a chance but the wife refuse...
Maybe it's also good ...coz the road to recover is even harder...
Really human don know how to treasure things that they have...
Of coz i am only listening from one sided story ...
But it really hurts...esp to the one that love the most...
Sigh ! Until now still haven't lunch ....
But lucky i got my fav 豆沙饼 ！
Monday, 29 September 2008
MIA
Dear friends...
I never MIA...just that weekend i went to malaysia for a short holiday with my little prince
and of coz my hubby...
Although the trip is short...but i guess i got nothing to complain about this trip...
Boy really enjoy himself alot...and of coz there are times that he misbehave...
Find that he really grow up alot... he now got his own way of thinking...
No longer the little one that listens all to me...maybe in a way it's something good...
but somehow i was a little down coz i find him too naughty...
As for the "big kid" ...he was ok for the whole trip...just that got alot of things in mind...
guess is stress by $ and alot alot of our things like career etc...
Find that actually he too can be a very nice and caring person , if he dont bet and dont "cheong"..
Still feel myself not able to give out on him...
Today i fail !!!
I never MIA...just that weekend i went to malaysia for a short holiday with my little prince
and of coz my hubby...
Although the trip is short...but i guess i got nothing to complain about this trip...
Boy really enjoy himself alot...and of coz there are times that he misbehave...
Find that he really grow up alot... he now got his own way of thinking...
No longer the little one that listens all to me...maybe in a way it's something good...
but somehow i was a little down coz i find him too naughty...
As for the "big kid" ...he was ok for the whole trip...just that got alot of things in mind...
guess is stress by $ and alot alot of our things like career etc...
Find that actually he too can be a very nice and caring person , if he dont bet and dont "cheong"..
Still feel myself not able to give out on him...
Today i fail !!!
26SEP08...it's a special day !
Wanted to post something on last friday 26Sept08...
Who knows...i was so busy in office...dont even have time to go toilet..ha ha
Had wanted to post that it was our 7th wedding anniversary ...
We went for japanese food the day before...
No sweet words , no special celebration , no gift...
But i seem happy enough...maybe i am just a 小女人。
Time really flies...
These 7th years are full of ups and downs , laughter and tears !
If u ask me have i ever regrets...I give it a serious though...my answer is NO.
If u ask me can my marriage life be better...the answer is YES.
People say 七年之痒 ...i wonder when will i ever 痒 ?
Who knows...i was so busy in office...dont even have time to go toilet..ha ha
Had wanted to post that it was our 7th wedding anniversary ...
We went for japanese food the day before...
No sweet words , no special celebration , no gift...
But i seem happy enough...maybe i am just a 小女人。
Time really flies...
These 7th years are full of ups and downs , laughter and tears !
If u ask me have i ever regrets...I give it a serious though...my answer is NO.
If u ask me can my marriage life be better...the answer is YES.
People say 七年之痒 ...i wonder when will i ever 痒 ?
Thursday, 25 September 2008
What is important ?
Today i give myself 50 marks ...(just pass)
Coz feel like posting about him again...
but i still pass myself because my feeling abit differ from my older post..hee hee
He did not come home last nite(until now no sound from him)
Think drunk...mayb sleep by the road side or motel or hotel..
I start to think that we are really different...
He seems much happier when he is with his friends..
But when face me he feel the stress...
Coz i would tell him to go work , talk to him not to go gamble , ask him to stay more at home etc..
I have change myself just yesterday as not to everyday show black face etc...
I smile , i laugh...i joke..but end up he feel that i only think of play , play , play when he
is so stress in paying his debt...funny right..he is the one who tell me 做人要开心..siow
The best part is ...i have a very very nice and peaceful sleep...which i normal don't , i will
always wait for him to reach home b4 i sleep...
Ha ha ...maybe i was thinking if being together but feeling stress then no point...
Am i setting myself free ?
Am i able to free myself very soon ?
I don't know but i believe god knows...
Last time i always dress up just to impress him...
But today i doll myself up...although he did not get a chance to see me this am...
But i feel great ...even in the MRT i feel confident , so what if hubby dont care or concern..
I used to think...he is the most important person in my life...
I live for him...
I feel sad with him
I feel happy with him
but what is the point...he don even know how to treasure ppl around him...
But i must thank him for adding alot of colours to my life...
He really show me the "world" , and the ride of "roller coaster" of our life...
and because of him i understand myself more ...i realise that i can be such a crazy person
that can give out pride and alot alot of things just for the person i love...
I wan to tell myself...don keep looking back ...don keep thinking how we go through all the
hardship together etc...
The true is as times goes by human will change...
he no longer appreciate those days
no longer appreciate how i forgive him once and again...
He is no longer the person he used to be...
I don regret getting married to him...but i have to love myself and my boy more...
现在的他很不长进。。很烂赌 。。很让人失望。。
Coz feel like posting about him again...
but i still pass myself because my feeling abit differ from my older post..hee hee
He did not come home last nite(until now no sound from him)
Think drunk...mayb sleep by the road side or motel or hotel..
I start to think that we are really different...
He seems much happier when he is with his friends..
But when face me he feel the stress...
Coz i would tell him to go work , talk to him not to go gamble , ask him to stay more at home etc..
I have change myself just yesterday as not to everyday show black face etc...
I smile , i laugh...i joke..but end up he feel that i only think of play , play , play when he
is so stress in paying his debt...funny right..he is the one who tell me 做人要开心..siow
The best part is ...i have a very very nice and peaceful sleep...which i normal don't , i will
always wait for him to reach home b4 i sleep...
Ha ha ...maybe i was thinking if being together but feeling stress then no point...
Am i setting myself free ?
Am i able to free myself very soon ?
I don't know but i believe god knows...
Last time i always dress up just to impress him...
But today i doll myself up...although he did not get a chance to see me this am...
But i feel great ...even in the MRT i feel confident , so what if hubby dont care or concern..
I used to think...he is the most important person in my life...
I live for him...
I feel sad with him
I feel happy with him
but what is the point...he don even know how to treasure ppl around him...
But i must thank him for adding alot of colours to my life...
He really show me the "world" , and the ride of "roller coaster" of our life...
and because of him i understand myself more ...i realise that i can be such a crazy person
that can give out pride and alot alot of things just for the person i love...
I wan to tell myself...don keep looking back ...don keep thinking how we go through all the
hardship together etc...
The true is as times goes by human will change...
he no longer appreciate those days
no longer appreciate how i forgive him once and again...
He is no longer the person he used to be...
I don regret getting married to him...but i have to love myself and my boy more...
现在的他很不长进。。很烂赌 。。很让人失望。。
Wednesday, 24 September 2008
Life is short !
Read through all my posting....
Every posting is so sad and all about him..
Today i have decided to change my posting ...
Coz life is short..why not post some happy things instead ?
There is so much things that is happening around us...
Things like F1 , IR , Tainted milk etc...why must i only have him in mind ?
There are so many fun things around us...
Posting for today...
My boss is a very nice person...very homely person ..
A bit like my dad...
He knew that my handphone is giving me alot of problem lately..
Guess what ...today he bring his 7 mth old nokia E51 to me..
he only ask for $100
So touched !
My fav sweet... 大白兔奶糖。。。
so sad...every new year i sure to buy this sweet...
looks like i will not have a chance to eat it liao...
Myself...very zombie today
Coz last nite went drinking till 3am...
Sometimes it just good to let off the stress...
Although tired but i am happy...coz i enjoy...
and had fun seeing how people behave after a few drinks...looks funny lor...
Very happy with myself too...coz it have been so long since i smile and even laugh..
Never know that i can be so pretty when i smile...ha ha ha
And the stupid office air-con is sooooooooo cold ....make me even more sleepy...
and freeze !!!!
Today i give myself 80 marks for posting happy things !
Every posting is so sad and all about him..
Today i have decided to change my posting ...
Coz life is short..why not post some happy things instead ?
There is so much things that is happening around us...
Things like F1 , IR , Tainted milk etc...why must i only have him in mind ?
There are so many fun things around us...
Posting for today...
My boss is a very nice person...very homely person ..
A bit like my dad...
He knew that my handphone is giving me alot of problem lately..
Guess what ...today he bring his 7 mth old nokia E51 to me..
he only ask for $100
So touched !
My fav sweet... 大白兔奶糖。。。
so sad...every new year i sure to buy this sweet...
looks like i will not have a chance to eat it liao...
Myself...very zombie today
Coz last nite went drinking till 3am...
Sometimes it just good to let off the stress...
Although tired but i am happy...coz i enjoy...
and had fun seeing how people behave after a few drinks...looks funny lor...
Very happy with myself too...coz it have been so long since i smile and even laugh..
Never know that i can be so pretty when i smile...ha ha ha
And the stupid office air-con is sooooooooo cold ....make me even more sleepy...
and freeze !!!!
Today i give myself 80 marks for posting happy things !
Tuesday, 23 September 2008
我的小时候。
爸爸妈妈很迟才生育…
在我姐姐出世的那年，爸爸的生意兴隆。
3年后妈妈一心想要生一个男孩，怎么知道还是女的…她好失望。
那年爸爸却应为身体不适，生意一落千丈…
妈妈是个很迷信的人，她认定我是不祥的，认为我是来讨债的。
后来她经‘高人’指点说父母不可以为我庆生。
姐姐却每年都有父母为她开party.
在我5岁那年，阿姨为我开了个小庆祝会，邀请我的父母出席…好笑吧！
小小年龄的我已经被大人伤透了心。
接下来的不公平更是离谱…
它包括了每天早上在规定的时间我一定要买coffee给妈妈喝，
家里的家务要一手包办,
姐姐每晚喊着要吃夜宵，我就一定要去打包。
下午放学回家，姐姐可以睡午睡，但是我不可以。
妈妈规定我每天一定要做家务…
说到冲凉，家里有个大bath tub，但是妈妈从来不让我用，
我只可以去厨房的bath room用shower.
小时候，我就是灰姑娘。
这种种的磨练也让我学会独立。
以前好讨厌妈妈，但是现在长大了，对她的恨也少了。
妈妈我还是爱你的。
在我姐姐出世的那年，爸爸的生意兴隆。
3年后妈妈一心想要生一个男孩，怎么知道还是女的…她好失望。
那年爸爸却应为身体不适，生意一落千丈…
妈妈是个很迷信的人，她认定我是不祥的，认为我是来讨债的。
后来她经‘高人’指点说父母不可以为我庆生。
姐姐却每年都有父母为她开party.
在我5岁那年，阿姨为我开了个小庆祝会，邀请我的父母出席…好笑吧！
小小年龄的我已经被大人伤透了心。
接下来的不公平更是离谱…
它包括了每天早上在规定的时间我一定要买coffee给妈妈喝，
家里的家务要一手包办,
姐姐每晚喊着要吃夜宵，我就一定要去打包。
下午放学回家，姐姐可以睡午睡，但是我不可以。
妈妈规定我每天一定要做家务…
说到冲凉，家里有个大bath tub，但是妈妈从来不让我用，
我只可以去厨房的bath room用shower.
小时候，我就是灰姑娘。
这种种的磨练也让我学会独立。
以前好讨厌妈妈，但是现在长大了，对她的恨也少了。
妈妈我还是爱你的。
Monday, 22 September 2008
A letter to my hubby ! (although he dont know my blog)
Hi Dear ...
Happy 6th anniversary !
Time flies ... we been through so much...ups and downs...
We understand each other ...and no one really knows what we both gone through...
Understand that we both are facing lots of stress in 2008...
Maybe u feel i talk too much...
Maybe u have too much big problem to handle ..and our problem u consider small...
Anyway ... i really very stress up...coz i am not a gamble person ..so i hope u understand my stress ... i am not trying to blame you for everything.
But really u change alot these 2 years ... maybe $ is really really important...
But family too...
I have forgive u alot ... without conditions
and i hope u too can give me the forgivess...as i had threw a real big temper...
Do you know i feel real bad after that ?
I am scare ...really scare ..coz i can't seem to control myself...
I am so scare that u make mistake again...
I got so many pending bills to follow...
But every time u make mistake ...i forgive but at the same time i dont have your assurance...
I am scare...
But i just wan to say ...I still love you !
Happy 6th anniversary !
Time flies ... we been through so much...ups and downs...
We understand each other ...and no one really knows what we both gone through...
Understand that we both are facing lots of stress in 2008...
Maybe u feel i talk too much...
Maybe u have too much big problem to handle ..and our problem u consider small...
Anyway ... i really very stress up...coz i am not a gamble person ..so i hope u understand my stress ... i am not trying to blame you for everything.
But really u change alot these 2 years ... maybe $ is really really important...
But family too...
I have forgive u alot ... without conditions
and i hope u too can give me the forgivess...as i had threw a real big temper...
Do you know i feel real bad after that ?
I am scare ...really scare ..coz i can't seem to control myself...
I am so scare that u make mistake again...
I got so many pending bills to follow...
But every time u make mistake ...i forgive but at the same time i dont have your assurance...
I am scare...
But i just wan to say ...I still love you !
No one can really understand how hurt i feel !
As mention today 22sep08 is our 6 years...
Getting marry is something wonderful !
I will not forget 6 years ago how happy are we..and also our wedding lunch and dinner etc...
I know i am happily married !
I am a very simple person...i don't ask for the sky..I longer for a man who really care and love me...
I don't ask for lots of $ ,
I don't ask for condo ,
I don't ask for maids...
Today , 6 years later...he forgot that it's a special day !
I really know this time round i am wrong... I shouldn't have hit him...
I should not throw temper last nite...
But did he ever ask ...WHY ?
Why did my wife throw such big temper ?
(while writing this posting , tears drop...i can't seem to stop the tears)
Getting marry is something wonderful !
I will not forget 6 years ago how happy are we..and also our wedding lunch and dinner etc...
I know i am happily married !
I am a very simple person...i don't ask for the sky..I longer for a man who really care and love me...
I don't ask for lots of $ ,
I don't ask for condo ,
I don't ask for maids...
Today , 6 years later...he forgot that it's a special day !
I really know this time round i am wrong... I shouldn't have hit him...
I should not throw temper last nite...
But did he ever ask ...WHY ?
Why did my wife throw such big temper ?
(while writing this posting , tears drop...i can't seem to stop the tears)
好一个心痛的6周年 (ceremony)。
今天是我们的6周年，但感觉好心痛。
因为我们昨晚吵架了，我甚至动手打了他几下。
动手就是不对…
我也不知道我为什么会这样，控制不住自己，
好想疯了一样，好可怕。
发生了这样的事，今天当然无言以对…
记得6年前，他是怎么样牵着我的手把我娶进门…
今天是伤心的。
好想找回遗失的那种感觉。
因为我们昨晚吵架了，我甚至动手打了他几下。
动手就是不对…
我也不知道我为什么会这样，控制不住自己，
好想疯了一样，好可怕。
发生了这样的事，今天当然无言以对…
记得6年前，他是怎么样牵着我的手把我娶进门…
今天是伤心的。
好想找回遗失的那种感觉。
Sunday, 21 September 2008
Massage
Went for my fav massage just now...
30 mins Scalp massage ..which never fail to make me sleep...
another 30 mins back massage..which always helps in my muscular aches and pains.
Another of my fav is swedish body massage ..which i didn't have time to do it today ...
30 mins Scalp massage ..which never fail to make me sleep...
another 30 mins back massage..which always helps in my muscular aches and pains.
Another of my fav is swedish body massage ..which i didn't have time to do it today ...
My Weekend !
Yesterday was busy...as usual...bring boy for swimming..noon for math class..
During his math class..i went shop shop...saw a pair of working shoe but this month dont have these extra $ to buy anything...while waiting for boy...end up i window shopping till 1 hour..
never buy anything ...sian..
then worse thing is got to pay for boy maths fee...3 months for $450...
worse which meant alot for this broke month...what to do...
After that bring boy to visit my aunty....
She loves me alot since i was a little girl...till now...somehow there is a chemistry in us...
I need not tell her that i am unhappy etc...the moment she saw me, she knew it...
She offer to give me a good massage..hee hee and that is the best thing that i had for these 2 weeks..
She may not know what kind of pressure i am facing in my marrriage...she tot that i am happily married...But she does know that my mum side giving me lots of pressure as well as work...
People always tells me..i am lucky to have a well behave son...
But just last nite my boy talk to me without respect...
Suddenly feel like slapping him...
Not sure is it becoz i never make an effort to come home early to teach him...
Seem like getting a little out of hand...
Sigh...i better do something before it's too late..
Lately been throwing alot of temper on boy...
It is not that i am crazy or i take it out on him
but it's the fact that i am also quite scare that he turn up to be a useless person...
It's just too scarely !
During his math class..i went shop shop...saw a pair of working shoe but this month dont have these extra $ to buy anything...while waiting for boy...end up i window shopping till 1 hour..
never buy anything ...sian..
then worse thing is got to pay for boy maths fee...3 months for $450...
worse which meant alot for this broke month...what to do...
After that bring boy to visit my aunty....
She loves me alot since i was a little girl...till now...somehow there is a chemistry in us...
I need not tell her that i am unhappy etc...the moment she saw me, she knew it...
She offer to give me a good massage..hee hee and that is the best thing that i had for these 2 weeks..
She may not know what kind of pressure i am facing in my marrriage...she tot that i am happily married...But she does know that my mum side giving me lots of pressure as well as work...
People always tells me..i am lucky to have a well behave son...
But just last nite my boy talk to me without respect...
Suddenly feel like slapping him...
Not sure is it becoz i never make an effort to come home early to teach him...
Seem like getting a little out of hand...
Sigh...i better do something before it's too late..
Lately been throwing alot of temper on boy...
It is not that i am crazy or i take it out on him
but it's the fact that i am also quite scare that he turn up to be a useless person...
It's just too scarely !
Friday, 19 September 2008
I am really really very tired !!!
Sometimes i can't help but think that i am not really so important in his heart..
I am but just an alarm clock , who wake him up every morning for his work..
I am but just a person that he can throw temper at..
I am but just a ATM..
I am but just a person he will think of only went he is down..
Once his matter settled .. I am no longer needed ..
What is it that is holding me ?
When will i ever give up on this man ?
When will i ever wake up from my dream?
Why is it that i love him so much ?
Why is it that i can't seem to be able to leave him ?
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I am but just an alarm clock , who wake him up every morning for his work..
I am but just a person that he can throw temper at..
I am but just a ATM..
I am but just a person he will think of only went he is down..
Once his matter settled .. I am no longer needed ..
What is it that is holding me ?
When will i ever give up on this man ?
When will i ever wake up from my dream?
Why is it that i love him so much ?
Why is it that i can't seem to be able to leave him ?
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Thursday, 18 September 2008
Be thankful
Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations,
because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge,
because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes.
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
because it means you've made a difference.
It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,and they can become your blessings.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations,
because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge,
because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes.
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
because it means you've made a difference.
It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,and they can become your blessings.
男人女人 ...
This is their love song (the woman teach my hubby this song )...so hurting right !!!
女： 爱爱爱爱了几回 也明白其中滋味 付出的从来不会等于收回 我却还在等待着 谁能出现
男： 伤伤伤伤了几回 也曾经为爱憔悴 爱情里好人总比坏人狼狈 我却还是学不会 狠心对谁
女： 男人男人 多希望你是好人 多希望用你的真 让我不必再心疼
男： 女人女人 我答应做个好人 我答应用我一生 来换你的快乐一生
女： 爱爱爱爱了几回 也明白其中滋味 付出的从来不会等于收回 我却还在等待着 谁能出现
男： 伤伤伤伤了几回 也曾经为爱憔悴 爱情里好人总比坏人狼狈
合： 我却还是学不会 狠心对谁
女： 男人男人 多希望你是好人 多希望用你的真 让我不必再心疼
男： 女人女人 我答应做个好人 我答应用我一生 来换你的快乐一生
女： 男人男人 多希望你是好人 多希望用你的真 让我不必再心疼
男： 女人女人 我答应做个好人
合： 不会再让我（你）心疼 一等再等 你就是我等的那个人
男： 男人男人
女： 女人女人 合：多么希望你是对的人
女： 爱爱爱爱了几回 也明白其中滋味 付出的从来不会等于收回 我却还在等待着 谁能出现
男： 伤伤伤伤了几回 也曾经为爱憔悴 爱情里好人总比坏人狼狈 我却还是学不会 狠心对谁
女： 男人男人 多希望你是好人 多希望用你的真 让我不必再心疼
男： 女人女人 我答应做个好人 我答应用我一生 来换你的快乐一生
女： 爱爱爱爱了几回 也明白其中滋味 付出的从来不会等于收回 我却还在等待着 谁能出现
男： 伤伤伤伤了几回 也曾经为爱憔悴 爱情里好人总比坏人狼狈
合： 我却还是学不会 狠心对谁
女： 男人男人 多希望你是好人 多希望用你的真 让我不必再心疼
男： 女人女人 我答应做个好人 我答应用我一生 来换你的快乐一生
女： 男人男人 多希望你是好人 多希望用你的真 让我不必再心疼
男： 女人女人 我答应做个好人
合： 不会再让我（你）心疼 一等再等 你就是我等的那个人
男： 男人男人
女： 女人女人 合：多么希望你是对的人
谢谢你们，朋友们…
今天的心情沉重。
没有什么特别的原因。
可能是在这两个星期里发生了很多事，多到一时间没有办法适应。
公司里的变动…
踩到某某同事的尾巴…
生病…
家里的压力…
真的有苦没有地方说。
也真的没有人会发现我的不快乐，因为在他们的眼里我是坚强的。
但是他们忘了我也有软弱的一面。
我想我真的累了…
没有什么特别的原因。
可能是在这两个星期里发生了很多事，多到一时间没有办法适应。
公司里的变动…
踩到某某同事的尾巴…
生病…
家里的压力…
真的有苦没有地方说。
也真的没有人会发现我的不快乐，因为在他们的眼里我是坚强的。
但是他们忘了我也有软弱的一面。
我想我真的累了…
Wednesday, 17 September 2008
My Friend send me this...Ha Ha (Finally i laugh for the day)
How Men Change
The Love Word:
After 6 weeks: I looo-ve you, I love you, I love you!
After 6 months: Of course, I love you.
After 6 years: GOD, if I didn't love you, then why did I marry you?
Back from Work:
After 6 weeks: Honey, I'm home!
After 6 months: I'm BACK!!
After 6 years: Have you cooked yet?
Phone Ringing:
After 6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
After 6 months: Here, it's for you.
After 6 years: ANSWER THE! PHONE DAM*T!!
Cooking:
After 6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
After 6 months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
After 6 years: DUMPLING AGAIN??
New Dress:
After 6 weeks: Wow, you look like an angel in that dress.
After 6 months: You bought a new dress again?
After 6 years: How much did THAT cost me?
TV:
After 6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
After 6 months: I like this movie.
After 6 years: I'm going to watch PIRATES play, if you're not inthe mood, go to bed, I can stay up by myself!
Making Love:
After 6 weeks: Baby, I want you tonight?
After 6 months: Lets make another baby, my mother just called!!!
After 6 years: Please MOVE over to your side, I'm suffocatinghere!!!!
The Love Word:
After 6 weeks: I looo-ve you, I love you, I love you!
After 6 months: Of course, I love you.
After 6 years: GOD, if I didn't love you, then why did I marry you?
Back from Work:
After 6 weeks: Honey, I'm home!
After 6 months: I'm BACK!!
After 6 years: Have you cooked yet?
Phone Ringing:
After 6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
After 6 months: Here, it's for you.
After 6 years: ANSWER THE! PHONE DAM*T!!
Cooking:
After 6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
After 6 months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
After 6 years: DUMPLING AGAIN??
New Dress:
After 6 weeks: Wow, you look like an angel in that dress.
After 6 months: You bought a new dress again?
After 6 years: How much did THAT cost me?
TV:
After 6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
After 6 months: I like this movie.
After 6 years: I'm going to watch PIRATES play, if you're not inthe mood, go to bed, I can stay up by myself!
Making Love:
After 6 weeks: Baby, I want you tonight?
After 6 months: Lets make another baby, my mother just called!!!
After 6 years: Please MOVE over to your side, I'm suffocatinghere!!!!
心痛的感觉！
真的今天心不在焉。
还是想起他的一句一句刺痛的心的话。
难道他不知道我是因为担心他吗？
我终不可能说：“放心去赌吧！”
他让我觉的我的存在是多余的。
吵了架后变得无言以对…
唉，一切的努力都白费了。
还是想起他的一句一句刺痛的心的话。
难道他不知道我是因为担心他吗？
我终不可能说：“放心去赌吧！”
他让我觉的我的存在是多余的。
吵了架后变得无言以对…
唉，一切的努力都白费了。
他就是这样自我！
昨晚又失眠了。
大脑不停的重复他说的每句话…字字都好伤人。
他决定以他的方式来处理他的问题，我一时间没办法接受…就吵了一架。
后来他只扔下了几句…
“我的事你以后不要管！”
“我失败了，我会‘跑路’！”
多么没良心的一句话！
我不敢说我是个100％的好老婆。
但是这些日子以来我的不离不弃，我的委屈都往肚里吞。
没有感激…
结果他还是没有心改变，换来的就是一连串的废话。
我真的很累，这个人我真的教不好。
Not sure am i asking too much from him ?
He is really a headache...just 1 week ago , he can tell u ...at the most i go and find a job and
don touch on gamble...now he can tell you off ...
I got nothing to say about this man of mine...
Dear Aeris and Alice ...at least your ex guys are not as bad as mine and at least u both wake up
and heading towards another direction...
Look at me ...still hanging in the air...
Good mah ? Can anyone just give me a tight slap and wake me up ?
In our 7 years marriage ...i never once do anything wrong to him ...
I only got eyes on him...
大脑不停的重复他说的每句话…字字都好伤人。
他决定以他的方式来处理他的问题，我一时间没办法接受…就吵了一架。
后来他只扔下了几句…
“我的事你以后不要管！”
“我失败了，我会‘跑路’！”
多么没良心的一句话！
我不敢说我是个100％的好老婆。
但是这些日子以来我的不离不弃，我的委屈都往肚里吞。
没有感激…
结果他还是没有心改变，换来的就是一连串的废话。
我真的很累，这个人我真的教不好。
Not sure am i asking too much from him ?
He is really a headache...just 1 week ago , he can tell u ...at the most i go and find a job and
don touch on gamble...now he can tell you off ...
I got nothing to say about this man of mine...
Dear Aeris and Alice ...at least your ex guys are not as bad as mine and at least u both wake up
and heading towards another direction...
Look at me ...still hanging in the air...
Good mah ? Can anyone just give me a tight slap and wake me up ?
In our 7 years marriage ...i never once do anything wrong to him ...
I only got eyes on him...
Tuesday, 16 September 2008
Marriage Vows
To Bridegroom Will you, __________________ take this woman ______________ to be your wedded wife, to live together in the legal estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to her, so long as you both shall live?
To Bride Will you, _________________ take this man _________________ to be your wedded husband, to live together in the ligal estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to him, so long as you both shall live?
In token and pledge of our constant faith and abiding love, with this ring I marry you.
To Bride Will you, _________________ take this man _________________ to be your wedded husband, to live together in the ligal estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to him, so long as you both shall live?
In token and pledge of our constant faith and abiding love, with this ring I marry you.
Monday, 15 September 2008
关于家庭！！！
I had used what my school had taught me ...
01) Respect
02) Sacrifice
03) Honesty
Sometimes i wonder ...all my sacrifice are they worth it ? 这样做真的值得吗？
But i did it out of love ...Really i love my hubby alot alot !
No one really know how much i sacrifice for this relationship...
But now i only hope that he will get on his feet and move on...
I hope to be the person who will be there to give him encourgement...to pull him up when he fell..
to help him gain back his confident...
When the whole world give out on him and condemn him , i will be there to give him the support and tell him what has he done wrong...
I really may sound silly...but this is me !
01) Respect
02) Sacrifice
03) Honesty
Sometimes i wonder ...all my sacrifice are they worth it ? 这样做真的值得吗？
But i did it out of love ...Really i love my hubby alot alot !
No one really know how much i sacrifice for this relationship...
But now i only hope that he will get on his feet and move on...
I hope to be the person who will be there to give him encourgement...to pull him up when he fell..
to help him gain back his confident...
When the whole world give out on him and condemn him , i will be there to give him the support and tell him what has he done wrong...
I really may sound silly...but this is me !
踏入社会 ！！！
老板教我。。。饮水思源
Although my very first boss is no longer in this world ...but i still remember things that he has
taught me ...
Mr Sng ...thanks alot ! And may u be in peace...
Although my very first boss is no longer in this world ...but i still remember things that he has
taught me ...
Mr Sng ...thanks alot ! And may u be in peace...
School Motto / 校训
我来自一个很好的小学。。公立培群 ！
它教会了我很多。。。
礼义廉耻
School Motto / 校训
礼 / Courtesy
彬彬有礼 洗耳恭听
We must respect other people, especially our parents, teachers, brothers, sisters, friends and schoolmates. We must observe law and order in our society wherever we go.
义 / Justice
见义勇为 义不容辞
We must be willing to perform good deeds to others and even sacrifice our benefit for the good cause of mankind like giving generously to the poor and destitute, helping the handicapped and those who are really in need. Whatever we do, we must be guided by the principles of justice.
廉 / Honesty
路不拾遗 光明正大
Honesty means upright conduct and free from corrupted practice. We should not take anything which we do not deserve. There is an old saying, “Honesty is cultivated in thrift”. Since honesty is cultivated while we are young, we will be able to perform our duty honestly in future.
耻 / Honour
知错能改 洁身自爱
We should be on the alert constantly and refrain from doing things which we think are wrong. A person who esteems honour will have confidence in himself. He will correct his mistakes whenever he finds them.
它教会了我很多。。。
礼义廉耻
School Motto / 校训
礼 / Courtesy
彬彬有礼 洗耳恭听
We must respect other people, especially our parents, teachers, brothers, sisters, friends and schoolmates. We must observe law and order in our society wherever we go.
义 / Justice
见义勇为 义不容辞
We must be willing to perform good deeds to others and even sacrifice our benefit for the good cause of mankind like giving generously to the poor and destitute, helping the handicapped and those who are really in need. Whatever we do, we must be guided by the principles of justice.
廉 / Honesty
路不拾遗 光明正大
Honesty means upright conduct and free from corrupted practice. We should not take anything which we do not deserve. There is an old saying, “Honesty is cultivated in thrift”. Since honesty is cultivated while we are young, we will be able to perform our duty honestly in future.
耻 / Honour
知错能改 洁身自爱
We should be on the alert constantly and refrain from doing things which we think are wrong. A person who esteems honour will have confidence in himself. He will correct his mistakes whenever he finds them.
Sunday, 14 September 2008
Mid Autumn Festival.
Not sure are there really alot of people enjoying this day ...to me...nothing really interest me!
It is still the same old boring day...
At first plan to bring my mum and boy for japanese food at clarke quay.. end up my sis daughter
have fever so no choice but to cancel our appointment !
Then left my sis hsc , came back to my own hsc...which is so empty ..no sense of "family".
Very very boring day ...
And yes the mood is round and bright but just something is missing ....
Last time when i was a little girl , my mum and dad spend this day by letting me and sis play with the lantern..and mum and dad will sit by the round table eating different different mooncake and dad will boil water to make chinese tea...
It's just so cosy...and dad although u gone for 11 years...but i still miss you and miss your chinese tea...no man in this earth is as good as you ! I LOVE YOU , DAD !
Really miss those days...
and since i marry to him ...his family just doesn't have this kind of family value...
really different up bringing...
It is still the same old boring day...
At first plan to bring my mum and boy for japanese food at clarke quay.. end up my sis daughter
have fever so no choice but to cancel our appointment !
Then left my sis hsc , came back to my own hsc...which is so empty ..no sense of "family".
Very very boring day ...
And yes the mood is round and bright but just something is missing ....
Last time when i was a little girl , my mum and dad spend this day by letting me and sis play with the lantern..and mum and dad will sit by the round table eating different different mooncake and dad will boil water to make chinese tea...
It's just so cosy...and dad although u gone for 11 years...but i still miss you and miss your chinese tea...no man in this earth is as good as you ! I LOVE YOU , DAD !
Really miss those days...
and since i marry to him ...his family just doesn't have this kind of family value...
really different up bringing...
Friday, 12 September 2008
重庆麻辣火锅
Went for the chongqing steam boat last evening...
While having dinner with my hubby..suddenly think of "her"...
Becoz she came from Chongqing...can't help but suddenly just think of her ...
of coz i don deny that there is a sense of hate in me...
Of coz during our conversation ..we did mention about chongqing , about her etc..
Hope she don ever come back !
While having dinner with my hubby..suddenly think of "her"...
Becoz she came from Chongqing...can't help but suddenly just think of her ...
of coz i don deny that there is a sense of hate in me...
Of coz during our conversation ..we did mention about chongqing , about her etc..
Hope she don ever come back !
Wednesday, 10 September 2008
Why am i so unwilling to learn ?
During lunch asked my friends....
" Why is it that we are so unwilling to learn the new system ?"
" Is it due to age ? Maybe we getting old..."
But end up my answer is , it is not that we are getting old...for me i get very fed up is because
I feel that it's a kind of down grading ...becoz our old system is so advance...and this "new"
system ...really can kill people ...the entries are so silly...
These few days we are so fed up with the stupid new system...
" Why is it that we are so unwilling to learn the new system ?"
" Is it due to age ? Maybe we getting old..."
But end up my answer is , it is not that we are getting old...for me i get very fed up is because
I feel that it's a kind of down grading ...becoz our old system is so advance...and this "new"
system ...really can kill people ...the entries are so silly...
These few days we are so fed up with the stupid new system...
Japan...here i come !!!
May have a chance to go Osaka...so happy !
If confirm i will leave on the 07Oct08...
So many years have not been there...really looking forward to this trip...
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As for my family problem...not able to settle all..but at least have settle the major issue...
and last nite went to meet out with a friend... am very glad that it turns up to be a friendly settlement...although we still need to pay him the $ in 6 months time but i am already very happy that he give us a way out...Thanks brother !
I am pretty sure he has forgiven hubby...and he is actually planning to help hubby to go through
this dark period ...Only hope and pray that hubby will learn his mistake and be a more responsible person...and dont take people for a ride...coz people don owe u a living...
不要在人看成鬼，鬼看成人...
To hubby...
If after this time , u still don learn from mistakes and still cont to make the same mistakes again and again...u will be finish...Do you really know what is your mistake this time round ?
Will u even learn ?
Be more responsible.. must know how to spend $ wisely...
If people ever give u a chance...pls treasure it.
If confirm i will leave on the 07Oct08...
So many years have not been there...really looking forward to this trip...
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As for my family problem...not able to settle all..but at least have settle the major issue...
and last nite went to meet out with a friend... am very glad that it turns up to be a friendly settlement...although we still need to pay him the $ in 6 months time but i am already very happy that he give us a way out...Thanks brother !
I am pretty sure he has forgiven hubby...and he is actually planning to help hubby to go through
this dark period ...Only hope and pray that hubby will learn his mistake and be a more responsible person...and dont take people for a ride...coz people don owe u a living...
不要在人看成鬼，鬼看成人...
To hubby...
If after this time , u still don learn from mistakes and still cont to make the same mistakes again and again...u will be finish...Do you really know what is your mistake this time round ?
Will u even learn ?
Be more responsible.. must know how to spend $ wisely...
If people ever give u a chance...pls treasure it.
Tuesday, 9 September 2008
Mad house in office today !!!
Our office has just change to 2 new system....
Really going crazy over it ... so troublesome and so difficult to use...
Messy !!!
Maybe it's really just a matter of getting used to it ... but too many things happen at one shot...
Cannot really take it ...
Both home and work...all driving me crazy...
Tonite got to go and meet someone that in debt with ...not sure what is going to happen...but i
know that it's not going to be easy to settle and my man sometimes can be so hot temper...
God...i hope there's no quarrel tonite and really hope it will be a friendly settlement...
Really going crazy over it ... so troublesome and so difficult to use...
Messy !!!
Maybe it's really just a matter of getting used to it ... but too many things happen at one shot...
Cannot really take it ...
Both home and work...all driving me crazy...
Tonite got to go and meet someone that in debt with ...not sure what is going to happen...but i
know that it's not going to be easy to settle and my man sometimes can be so hot temper...
God...i hope there's no quarrel tonite and really hope it will be a friendly settlement...
Monday, 8 September 2008
Office matters
So angry in office today , maybe it's due to my mood !
Feel everything is so unfair !
How come i got to do all the stupid paper work and people can just don do , just becoz she say don know how to do...
DON'T KNOW THEN LEARN LAR...
fed up ...
Feel everything is so unfair !
How come i got to do all the stupid paper work and people can just don do , just becoz she say don know how to do...
DON'T KNOW THEN LEARN LAR...
fed up ...
Black days ahead !
Weekend was peaceful..bought mooncake for mum and nanny.
Hubby even spend time with the boy ...kite flying !
This is my hubby , whenever he is down .. then he will spend time with me , boy and even accompany me to mum hsc.. not sure if i should be happy enough.
Last nite suddenly felt very uneasy , wanted so much then he can hug me to sleep but of coz never lor...
Tears feel like dropping but do not want to worry him.
Had asked him a question which i later regret that i had asked...
I ask him now that i am with his side to go through this hard ship together , does he has confidence that we both will have happy ending together and he will not have another woman...
His answer is very clear cut ...he say no confidence...it really just leave me wonder then what is the point of me going through the hard times together...i don feel appreciate , really !
Life with hubby is really full of ups and downs...so much that sometimes my heart cannot stand it...
Maybe he feel that it's best that i can leave him ... (I am not very sure what he thinks...)
My personal problem really is affecting my job ...i dont mean it , but i really cannot concentrate.
Everyday worry about his problem...everyday thinking where to find more $...
I know at the end of the day , it's really he himself that can help himself...and i know very well that he will never stop gamble...he will ... when he has the $ again.
Feel that he never have the time for me to talk about my emotional...last time when i wanted to talk about it , he is not interested ...coz he is more interested in those women outside...now that he is down , he is still not interested to hear me out coz he has got problems to face...
When will i ever have a chance to talk about myself...
I came from a family that dont drink , don bet...but i married into a family that smokes , drink and bet...do u know the pressure that i am facing...
I have never face $ problem but do u know the stress that i have to face when i am now in debt ...
When i pass him the $ ..he has never ask me where the $ come from....
Does it bore him ? Have he ever ask do i still have the $ to pay for boy school fee ?
This question just come into my mind today...it's worth the waiting ?
But i really don have the heart to leave him at the current moment...How can i ?
When he is feeling so down in his life....
Hubby even spend time with the boy ...kite flying !
This is my hubby , whenever he is down .. then he will spend time with me , boy and even accompany me to mum hsc.. not sure if i should be happy enough.
Last nite suddenly felt very uneasy , wanted so much then he can hug me to sleep but of coz never lor...
Tears feel like dropping but do not want to worry him.
Had asked him a question which i later regret that i had asked...
I ask him now that i am with his side to go through this hard ship together , does he has confidence that we both will have happy ending together and he will not have another woman...
His answer is very clear cut ...he say no confidence...it really just leave me wonder then what is the point of me going through the hard times together...i don feel appreciate , really !
Life with hubby is really full of ups and downs...so much that sometimes my heart cannot stand it...
Maybe he feel that it's best that i can leave him ... (I am not very sure what he thinks...)
My personal problem really is affecting my job ...i dont mean it , but i really cannot concentrate.
Everyday worry about his problem...everyday thinking where to find more $...
I know at the end of the day , it's really he himself that can help himself...and i know very well that he will never stop gamble...he will ... when he has the $ again.
Feel that he never have the time for me to talk about my emotional...last time when i wanted to talk about it , he is not interested ...coz he is more interested in those women outside...now that he is down , he is still not interested to hear me out coz he has got problems to face...
When will i ever have a chance to talk about myself...
I came from a family that dont drink , don bet...but i married into a family that smokes , drink and bet...do u know the pressure that i am facing...
I have never face $ problem but do u know the stress that i have to face when i am now in debt ...
When i pass him the $ ..he has never ask me where the $ come from....
Does it bore him ? Have he ever ask do i still have the $ to pay for boy school fee ?
This question just come into my mind today...it's worth the waiting ?
But i really don have the heart to leave him at the current moment...How can i ?
When he is feeling so down in his life....
Friday, 5 September 2008
赌。。是害人的东西！！！
真的很烦。。
已经好几天没睡好了。
家里有些烦人的事。。。
总知赌是害人的！真的好累！一下是有女人， 一下是一身债。
真不知道上辈子是不是欠他的！
Have not been sleeping well for the past few days...coz the person sleeping beside me keep having nite mare...guess he is too stressful. If these goes on...he will soon be crazy.
What can i do ? Throw him aside , don care abt him ? I can't ...I just can't !
He has lost his way in life...how can i be so cruel to leave him to rot by himself...
If in the beginning , i married him becoz of $ of coz now i can leave everything behind and wash my hands off everything...but i married him out of love...
I believe he will change one day ...i go all out is for his own good and not mine...
I believe he is smart enough to know what is right and wrong...
I believe he just lost his way and i need to be there to help him to find his way back , becoz i am his wife...the whole world can give out on him but i can't...
I feel that Lotus knows me the best....
Lotus am i rite ? Are u back from Bangkok ?
已经好几天没睡好了。
家里有些烦人的事。。。
总知赌是害人的！真的好累！一下是有女人， 一下是一身债。
真不知道上辈子是不是欠他的！
Have not been sleeping well for the past few days...coz the person sleeping beside me keep having nite mare...guess he is too stressful. If these goes on...he will soon be crazy.
What can i do ? Throw him aside , don care abt him ? I can't ...I just can't !
He has lost his way in life...how can i be so cruel to leave him to rot by himself...
If in the beginning , i married him becoz of $ of coz now i can leave everything behind and wash my hands off everything...but i married him out of love...
I believe he will change one day ...i go all out is for his own good and not mine...
I believe he is smart enough to know what is right and wrong...
I believe he just lost his way and i need to be there to help him to find his way back , becoz i am his wife...the whole world can give out on him but i can't...
I feel that Lotus knows me the best....
Lotus am i rite ? Are u back from Bangkok ?
Thursday, 4 September 2008
Thomas & Friends Live On Stage !
After a long long wait...finally this day arrival , I am bring my boy to EXPO to watch his fav thomas...he has been looking forward to these day...since JUL 08.
Too bad the daddy will not join us... i expected it long ago..
Cant have our family time again...
Who cares...just as long as my boy enjoy it , it's still worth it...
Too bad the daddy will not join us... i expected it long ago..
Cant have our family time again...
Who cares...just as long as my boy enjoy it , it's still worth it...
Tuesday, 2 September 2008
凡人= 烦人
真的很烦。。从上新期二晚就病！以为好了， 哪知来个大伤风。。。
一下冷， 一下热。。人一没$ 问题就来了！
有时。。人真的很烦，像我。。真的不知道“老婆”应该在生活中扮演一个怎么样的角色？
是不是把家里照顾好，疼公公，婆婆，相夫教子，这就是个好老婆吗？
那为什么每当老公做错事时，所有的毛头都会指着你，说你不会管教他。
感觉好委屈，老公又不是我生的，这也要算在我头上吗？
那老公做好时，有没有人会拍拍我的肩膀说我教的好呢？
一下冷， 一下热。。人一没$ 问题就来了！
有时。。人真的很烦，像我。。真的不知道“老婆”应该在生活中扮演一个怎么样的角色？
是不是把家里照顾好，疼公公，婆婆，相夫教子，这就是个好老婆吗？
那为什么每当老公做错事时，所有的毛头都会指着你，说你不会管教他。
感觉好委屈，老公又不是我生的，这也要算在我头上吗？
那老公做好时，有没有人会拍拍我的肩膀说我教的好呢？
Monday, 1 September 2008
I am well and start work already...
Hi all... I am back to office today , tot still a bit lazy , but better be able to work then fell sick rite.
Yesterday forget to post...Yesterday is Malaysia national day although not much of my concern but it happens to be my dating anny of 14 years lor..no celebration , nothing...But i also got no hard feelings...coz i know he is under alot of stress ...
During my sick time , i lost alot of things...
i lost $ (pay doctor..so exp) but i see who are those who are really concern abt me
i lost health but i become stronger in handling my emotion problems
i lost my chance of leading a group to malacca but i gain time spending with boy
i know that we need to be in good health in order to take care of things at home and in order to handle what ever problems that comes along , and only u and take good care of yourself and really my boy is very important to me (when he fell ill, how i take care of him in the mid of the nite) hoping he will recover soon and be healthy...and i also realise that boy is getting more and more naughty...guess i too long never really spend time with him to understand him...
As for my hubby , his problem is getting bigger...not sure what to tell him...But he has really done alot of wrong thing...and it's going to cause him to lost alot of friends...
Hope he can really learn from mistake and really have to buck up and do his best in his career..
I always believe in giving chances ..but must really learn from mistakes..
Yesterday forget to post...Yesterday is Malaysia national day although not much of my concern but it happens to be my dating anny of 14 years lor..no celebration , nothing...But i also got no hard feelings...coz i know he is under alot of stress ...
During my sick time , i lost alot of things...
i lost $ (pay doctor..so exp) but i see who are those who are really concern abt me
i lost health but i become stronger in handling my emotion problems
i lost my chance of leading a group to malacca but i gain time spending with boy
i know that we need to be in good health in order to take care of things at home and in order to handle what ever problems that comes along , and only u and take good care of yourself and really my boy is very important to me (when he fell ill, how i take care of him in the mid of the nite) hoping he will recover soon and be healthy...and i also realise that boy is getting more and more naughty...guess i too long never really spend time with him to understand him...
As for my hubby , his problem is getting bigger...not sure what to tell him...But he has really done alot of wrong thing...and it's going to cause him to lost alot of friends...
Hope he can really learn from mistake and really have to buck up and do his best in his career..
I always believe in giving chances ..but must really learn from mistakes..
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